Avoidance: Just another way Fear shows up

When we live from a place of fear we try to create a “safe” environment by putting so much of our energy into avoiding so many things, and not living our truth. We may look at almost everything, everyone and situation as a potential danger (from people, to germs, finances, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of giving up or never trying at all, relationships, jobs,etc). So we put all this energy into avoiding everything that frightens us, which makes sense….we were taught don’t touch that it will break, don’t pet that dog he may bite, don’t jump off the monkey bars you’ll break your arm, don’t swim to deep you may drown, don’t run you’ll fall.  So it’s ingrained at a young age to avoid or to not try at all so we don’t get hurt. Which creates some level of fear in just about anything and everything we encounter in our daily lives.  I believe this to be a learned behavior, whether it came from the teachers in our lives and even if it didn’t come from our parents, we learned this at school, through watching others, everywhere you go as children we observed, learned and felt this “avoidance” behavior. And now our energy can feel stifled, trying so hard to breathe but we are literally strangling ourselves.  And if now we are the scared adult with children of our own, that is a whole other level of fear.  We end up missing out on “LIFE” and projecting our worries and fears onto our children.

I realized in my avoiding I also create procrastination which is just another form of fear and it is all because I am afraid.  But now being aware and mindful of the things I put so much energy into avoiding, knowing it is a great step forward because now I am more easily able to catch myself, ask why am I doing this? Or more importantly why am I NOT doing this? And whatever is causing me to avoid (as long as it’s truly not going to physically cause me harm or another) I choose to choose the latter, choose to take right step actions towards what brings me joy, choose love over fear.  Of course I’m not saying jump out of a plane without a parachute but the everyday choices that we make to avoid the things that scare us are actually creating that very thing we are avoiding.  It’s actually creating more fear.

Whether it’s constantly worrying about your weight; putting your focus into avoiding this food or that food but the scale stays the same or you seem to put on more weight (instead focus your energy on loving yourself), staying in relationships/friendships that cause you pain or drain you avoiding being alone (instead of focusing your energy on loving yourself and making room for the right partner to come into your life), staying in a job that you are miserable at because it’s safe avoiding going after your dreams and although you are bringing in an income you still seem to stay in a vicious cycle of living paycheck to paycheck or barely having enough to get by (instead focus your energy on loving yourself take steps to go after your dream, find your purpose), avoiding an uncomfortable conversation because you are scared of confrontation but held in for too long either later turns into a complete blow out battle or turned inward an ucler, avoiding asking for help out of fear that you will look weak because you “should’ be able to handle it all or that you will be disappointed that no one will offer a helping hand.  My solution will continue to be the same focus your energy on loving yourself, do what brings you joy.

Think about all the things in life that you work so hard at and that you’ve been putting your energy into avoiding, how long have you been missing out on life, how long have you been stuck in the same unhappy patterns? Begin to do the opposite, be aware, switch up your game, your daily routine, your perception, open your awareness, take a moment to Breathe with intent, ask for help.  Incorporate something new into your life that you have been avoiding. Do something different, see what happens. Begin to take the path of least resistance by trusting All is well. I’m ready to jump, jump with me and if we fall I know we’ll get right back up but I have to try!!!! Start small if you have to, whether it’s getting up earlier to incorporate a morning run or to take 5 minutes to yourself to jump-start your day.

I would love to hear feedback because I bet we all have similar avoidance out of fear.  I feel when we share it heals us, it let’s us know we are not alone and brings us closer together, in unity.  I’ve been avoiding expanding my audience, fully sharing my messages and my healing gifts (I have so much to say, so many experiences I want to share but have been holding back a bit because I was scared others wouldn’t accept me for who I am).  But now that I have more love and acceptance for myself, I feel I want to share more freely.  Knowing that self-love and acceptance is important to me, I want to look myself in the mirror and like the person I see knowing I am being as authentic as possible with every day setting an intention to do my very best.

Just for today I will be kind to all living things, just for today I will not worry, just for today I will not be angry, just for today I will be grateful, just for today I will do my work honestly.  These are the Reiki principles which I have begun to live by daily and I add a couple of my own like I will practice forgiveness, I will not judge others or myself and be more loving and compassionate). I am a certified Intuitive Reiki Energy healer and soon will offer my services to the public.

I have these amazing gifts and ready to share them.  I’ve done so much self-healing, a lot of introspective investigation to figure out who I am, why I am the way I am, why I feel, hear, see and know so much. I was stopped in my tracks a couple of months ago because I asked daily who am I and what is my purpose and I received the answers over and over and over again but I wasn’t listening, I wasn’t sharing, I was un-grounded due to all the self-doubt/ fear I was still holding onto. I wanted to be of service and was given everything to do so but kept it to myself because I wasn’t in a place of self-love and acceptance.  Sometimes the miracles, the experiences I’ve been gifted have been so special, so amazing, so unreal that I didn’t know how to express them but I know now it is time. Energy healing combined with my greatest gift of intuition to be able to connect to people on a soul level to help them live their best lives ever. To help others raise their vibration to release the emotional blocks that cause emotional/physical pain is a gift that needs to be shared.  For me I feel most like myself, most authentic when I can connect to this part of me, where I am a conduit for Creative Divine Source Energy to work through me, where I feel my best, in complete alignment with the path that has been laid out for me, where I can serve while feeling fulfilled, attracting abundance and feel free. Allow the light in me help to ignite the light in you!











2 thoughts on “Avoidance: Just another way Fear shows up

  1. Love this. It’s crazy because I was reading a book this morning called Raise Your Vibration by Kyle Gray and today’s quote was about knowing your safe and facing your fears. And than I read your post. 💗


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